How to remember what friends tell you
A simple way to remember what friends and family tell you (names, plans, news) so your next conversation picks up where you left off, with the apps already on your iPhone.
Tiewell keeps what matters and your last topics on each person, shows them when that person is due, and lets you search your notes for a place or an event.
Why we forget
Forgetting isn't a sign you don't care. You hear lots of updates a week from different people, and without a cue most of them fade within days. A written line is the cue.
What to write down
- Big news: a new job, a move, a baby, an illness.
- Dates that matter to them: an exam, an interview, a race, an anniversary.
- Names: their partner, kids, pets.
- One question for next time.
Where to keep it
Pick one place and stick to it. One note per person in the Notes app is simple; the Notes field on a Contacts card keeps it next to their number. What matters is finding it in five seconds before you text them.
Use it
Before you reach out, read the last line, then open with it: "How did the interview go?" People remember being remembered.
Keep it kind
These are private notes about people you love, not a file on them. Write what you'd be happy for them to read, and keep it somewhere private.
Questions people ask
Is there an app to remember things about friends?
Yes. Apps often called a "personal CRM" keep notes per person. Tiewell is one made for friends and family rather than networking.
How do I remember people's names and details?
Write one line after you meet someone, including where you met and one thing they told you, and read it back before you next see them.
Two minutes a morning
Add the people you'd hate to lose, choose how often for each, and Tiewell shows who's due each morning. You write the message yourself. On iPhone.